Monday, May 7, 2012
I have had a change of heart. For the past couple of years, I have been doing the bare minimum around our home. Oh, I organized the storage container and half-heartedly tidied up the shed, but I had no desire to waste my time improving our property, after all, I didn't really want to live here. The more I let things go, the worse things looked, and the worse things looked, the more I wanted to move. Let somebody else do the work, I thought.
After over two years of feeling sorry for myself, I woke up. As much as I wanted to move, I realized that I needed to be a good steward of what I had. And so I went to work. I decided what was important to me and put my shoulder to the plow. I planted two raspberry beds, planted an herb bed and prepared more beds for lettuce, beans and carrots. I bought a lawn mower (ancient, but it works great!) and set the children to work mowing our fields. We organized the outdoor racking and stacked lumber, barrels and tires. We took multiple trips to the dump and set the burn pile on fire.
And then we noticed the change. One evening, as Sir Knight and I were surveying our kingdom, he commented on how wonderful it was looking. He mentioned that although we had done nothing monumental, all of the little things had made a huge difference. It inspired him, he said, to do more - to tidy, to organize and to build. By being good stewards of what we had, we had found contentment. Rather than despising what we had, we embraced it.
As I thought about our spring cleaning, it occurred to me that our marriages could use a good spring cleaning from time to time. How often do we become complacent, apathetic and even hostile toward one another? How often do we allow things to get messy and then trip over our messes? The messier things get, the less we want to deal with them. And soon enough, we are looking for an address change.
While marriage can be challenging, it is well worth the effort to do a little spring cleaning. If you are thinking of changing addresses, consider investing in your own real estate instead. Take it upon yourself to be respectful (yes, even if your husband isn't being respectable). Be kind, be patient, be cheerful. Check your attitude at the door. Hold your tongue if you can't say anything nice. Little by little, with careful stewardship, your home real estate may take on a new luster. You may come to find that home truly is where the heart is.
Spring cleaning awakened a new appreciation for our land. Tending our marriages can do so much more.
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